My first real date was an interesting story that I feel like sharing. I went out for coffee with a friend, and we talked about our lives, our common interests, etc. We talked for a while but at the time I was focusing on myself so that ended naturally. Anyways, a couple of years later, I was talking to my friends and one of them mentioned him so we started talking about this. Turns out, that at the same time we were talking he was talking to other girls and had a girlfriend abroad. So who was the clown of the story? Me; and this is what I’ve learned: ALWAYS stalk your dates before the date! Know who you are going out with and talk to your friends as well, let them know where you’re going and who you’re going with. Be safe and date on!
Ok, Hustlers, this is one that I hope you learn from. I went out to a club with some friends, we met a group of guys, and by the end of the night, one of them had my number. We started talking and after a couple of weeks the guy finally asked me out. The day comes, I get ready, put on some makeup, dress really cute, etc. He picks me up (great sign), pays for both of us at the bowling alley (I offered to split), and then takes me for coffee and ice cream, even though we had only planned to go bowling. So Hustlers, you can probably see me thinking that I have finally found a nice guy worth dating. Well, you and I were both VERY wrong. When he is driving me back to his place he tells me that he wants to be straight-forward and says that he has a girl back home that he loves, they are still together, but because they are long-distance he wants to date me here. To say I was shocked would be an understatement. He wanted me to be his side-chick! No way. Do not EVER agree to be a guy’s side woman or second choice. You’re the main course, know your worth! After the “date”, I stalked the guy’s Instagram and he had pictures with the girl. If I would have stalked him in the first place, I wouldn’t have wasted my time. So Hustlers, PLEASE stalk your dates, research them, find out if they have a girlfriend or if they are who they claim. There is no shame in doing this, and if anyone tells you differently it’s because they have something to hide.
Yes, I bailed.
Hustlers, please don’t judge me just yet. I met this guy on a dating app, he looked good and we had similar interests, so when he asked me on a date I accepted. He invited me to a pretty high-end restaurant for dinner, and we agreed to meet there at 6pm. I got there at 6:15 and he wasn’t there but said he was a few minutes away. He clearly wasn’t, because I waited 30 minutes at the table until he arrived. Once he got there everything was fine, we got along well and he was funny. When it was time to order, we both got medium-rare steak. When our entrees came out he cut his steak and complained that it was rare (it was actually medium-rare, but ok). Instead of politely calling for the waitress he snapped his fingers, LITERALLY SNAPPED, at the waitress to get her attention. Then he proceeded to berate her about how they didn’t know the difference between rare and medium-rare. I was very uncomfortable. No one should talk to anyone in that manner, and I told him that. He got upset and didn’t understand what he had done wrong, but we moved on. Dessert time came and I wanted to order the cheesecake for dessert, but he insisted on ordering for me because I just HAD to try their dark chocolate cake. I told him I didn’t like dark chocolate, but he INSISTED that I had to order it and proceeded to tell the waitress to disregard my order. This was the last straw. Hustlers, you can bet that at that moment I told him I was going to the bathroom, but instead I left the restaurant and blocked him. Can you imagine how he would have treated me if we were in a relationship? What kind of treatment can you expect from someone who disrespects other people and completely dismisses your wishes? No thanks.
I got catfished.
Last year, I went on a date with this guy… and, I’m not going to lie to you Hustlers, I did feel like we had some things in common. We played the same sports, we were both international, etc. We start talking and he tells me all about how he had been in the US for several years and that he had a garment company. So we met up at a bar and my first thought was that he looked very different in person. I could tell it was the same person, but he just looked very different. First red flag right? Anyways, we go in and we start talking but I could tell that he wasn’t understanding much of what I was saying. He then proceeded to take his phone out and asked me to type what I was saying in google translate. We continued talking and he politely asked me what I wanted to drink. He placed an order for me and we continued talking. He tells me he is in the military in his country. Then as the conversation continued, he switched up his story and told me he was a chef. Then a couple of minutes later, he switches up his story again and tells me he was a delivery driver. Then our order arrives and he hands me the bill. This is when I decided to leave. Hustlers, if someone is lying on the first date, can you imagine what it would be like as the relationship continues? Be careful and be safe out there, please! Catfishing is real, so yes, please do stalk your dates before you go out with them. Facebook, LinkedIn, Instagram, even Twitter, they’re your best friends!
The OG Hustlers